Chaos (original poster member #61031) posted at 8:00 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
WH and I attended a concert the other week with a group of friends. We had a great time. We even hung out with the band a bit afterward by some sheer luck.
The next morning, one of the friends tags us in a FB post. Many photos were taken, but the one the poster said was the favorite was one of us holding hands. We didn’t stage it, didn’t even know it was being taken. But there it was. A silhouette of us from the back as a couple holding hands unaware of anyone noticing. Hands coupled, me with my head leaning towards his shoulder and him with his head turned down to look lovingly at me.
This is how we present and project as a couple. We are the couple that others aspire to be. We are the couple our friend’s envy. The LTA is long distant and become a dirty little secret of sorts. We don’t let it define us. It may be part of our past, part of our story. But it is not part of our present and our future.
The only thing that other’s see when they look at us is love and adoration.
For some reason – this makes me walk a bit taller today. And a bit sparklier 😊
[This message edited by Chaos at 8:00 PM, Monday, August 3rd]
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Asterisk ( member #86331) posted at 8:13 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
Bravo
And so it should!
Nice, refreshing, hopeful post. Thank you
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:41 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 9:15 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
Lucky man to be holding hands with a Badass Sparkly Godess Unicorn!
I'm very happy for you, Chaos! You'd better copy & paste this post in PRS thread or suffer the wrath of W2BHA 
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 9:34 PM on Monday, August 3rd, 2026
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
hikingout ( member #59504) posted at 5:04 PM on Tuesday, August 4th, 2026
Such an awesome update from you! You need to frame that picture!
WS and BS - Reconciled
Mine 2017
His 2020
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 6:43 PM on Tuesday, August 4th, 2026
Aww shaa ... so SWEET ... thank you for sharing 
! My Lil Bro is right ... THIS post definitely should go in the "Positive Reconciliation Stories" thread at the TOP of the Reconciliation Forum . All you need to do is copy your post and paste it into that thread 
!
I am so HAPPY for you two !
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:36 PM on Tuesday, August 4th, 2026
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Chaos (original poster member #61031) posted at 12:09 AM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2026
Also posted in Positive Reconciliation Stories at the suggestion of Unhinged and Want2BHappyAgain
And yes Unhinged - he is very lucky to have been able to hold the hand of the BASGU that is me [Chaos]. He knows this. And so do I.
I have a print of this ordered for a frame - thanks hikingout for the suggestion.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
