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I can’t quit thinking about the now viral picture of the cheating ceo and his AP outed onscreen at the Coldplay concert. People are making jokes and think it’s hilarious. I want to vomit and go hug his wife. I can’t imagine D day being so public for all my family, friends, children, and strangers to witness. I am sure many of those commenting and reposting this horror are either cheaters or have been cheated on. Where is the humanity? I am so disgusted and saddened for his wife and children.

It is a lot for all of us BSes to watch, triggering for sure. As you said it is awful to contemplate what this woman is going through. On the plus side it is hard not to get a bit of satisfaction that the two involved parties will likely have massive and permanent consequences. It would be nice if these sorts of things had some sort of deterrent effect. But, really people’s capacity for stupidity and callous disregard for their loved ones seems endless and unwavering.

It's a truly complex situation, and my fiancé and I have been discussing it, finding ourselves in two minds about the public exposure.

We certainly see the many obvious downsides you've mentioned, particularly the messy impact on the children who would witness everything unfold so publicly.

However, the upside is undeniably significant: the overwhelming public support for the wife, with people openly hoping she takes him for all he's worth. That must feel incredibly validating. Imagine if literally everyone in your world was supporting you and labeling your partner a creep – the world has essentially taken your side.

My fiancé actually suggested that she believes this public outing could be a surprisingly effective way for the wife to gain clarity. It's like ripping off a band-aid for her, publicly exposing the husband as a "sleazeball," and potentially providing crucial evidence for a fault divorce, if that's legally possible. Though, we acknowledge that if she ultimately chooses to reconcile with him, she might face a backlash herself from the very public currently supporting her.

So, I suppose whether this public exposure ends up being a "good thing" ultimately depends on whether she stays or leaves. Personally, I just love the karma of it all.

I recall reading on another forum that public social media exposure by a betrayed spouse often makes them look unhinged and embarrassing – that was the majority opinion. Yet, many betrayed spouses feel compelled to do it. The way this situation unfolded, with the lead singer of a terribly corny band calling them out, means the wife maintains her dignity while still getting him publicly outed.

Presuming she is somewhat innocent in all this, I sincerely hope she divorces him and takes as much as she possibly can. Likewise the husband of the CPO.

[This message edited by DRSOOLERS at 8:06 AM, Friday, July 18th]

People are laughing at the ridiculously stupid comments the cheater made.

He’s angry at the band because he was caught cheating. 😂😂😂😡😡😡

He’s playing the victim and that’s why people are laughing. He tried to hide, she tried to hide and they look foolish. And NOW he’s concerned for his wife and family.

He deserves whatever comes his way.

That statement he made - all I could think of is Scooby Doo.

I would have gotten away with it too if it weren't for those meddling kids.

Just replace "kids" with "Coldplay Kiss Cam"

Sounds just as pathetic.

I feel for his wife and kids.

As for him and her - I don't feel sorry for them one damn bit. I think those two got run over by a caravan of Karma Busses going full speed ahead. And I can't say I feel one bit of sorrow for them.

Their loved ones absolutely. But not them.

Nobody likes to feel humiliated in public or feel like a personal crisis is entertainment for others. But if there's a plus side to this public "outing", it's that it's basically impossible for the cheater to lie and minimize, and for his wife to rugsweep. How many times did that asshole tell his wife that he was working late (the concert was on Tuesday) when he was actually out with the OW? What if the wife had suspicions about her husband and coworkers in the past and he made her feel like she was crazy?

There's no talking his way out of this. There's no pretending that what happened didn't happen.

We don't know about the details, but that snuggle during the concert didn't look a hook-up; it looked like a loving couple out for their 25th wedding anniversary. That's why it caught the attention of a cameraperson and was featured on the jumbotron. The cheaters were so comfortable and careless that it didn't occur to them that at a concert of 60K people, there was a good chance that they would be recognized by at least one. Well, now everyone knows.

Personally, I hope that the BW gets a shark lawyer and that he's eating out of a dumpster for the next 30 years. But if she decides reconcile with him, I hope she gets the mother-of-all postnups.

As for the OW, she better have another skill to fall back on because her career is finished. The job of a head of HR is to protect the company from risk, and uphold ethical and legal standards for personnel-- she's done the opposite.

And on the off chance that Megan (the BW) finds this site and this thread, here's a message to you: we're here for you if you need us, whether to lurk or to post. You will get through this. The whole world is literally on your side.

[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 2:36 PM, Friday, July 18th]

Major kudos to Chris Martin, lead singer, for calling them out as it was happening.

Major kudos to Chris Martin, lead singer, for calling them out as it was happening.

Agreed.

Dude is still in serious denial if he is blaming the band for his choices. Or as Chaos already noted, a very Scooby Doo moment — and yet, feeling all the feels for the guy’s wife.

Let me clarify my position. I could not care less about the two cheaters in this story. I hope they are hung out to dry. My empathy goes to the wife and children as I know had this happened in my situation I’d have been even more mortified. Most of us felt unnecessary shame and humiliation early on. That should not be compounded in such a public way. I also think it will make reconciliation harder if she chooses that route. And if she does divorce most states don’t care about cheating . I just can’t imagine how painful it must be to find out this way and then have everyone you know and many you don’t also find out. That choice should have been hers. I do agree the karma on his side is heartwarming to see, but not at her expense.

I really feel for the BS’s, but I love how Karma came calling. If they had just stood there cuddling, and smiling it would have never gone viral. But cockroaches run when the lights are on.

How hard for the BSs, they were asking themselves why their partners were never hole withdrawn wha6 they were doing wrong.
Well this type of outing totally validates thay the BS was doing NOTHING WRONG. Hopefully this helps them to springboard healing.
Other things I've seen this am is that he was a horrible boss so that seems to reinforce the narcissistic tendency and again make it easier for the BSs to know they have every right to walk away.
If they find us let's all be supportive kind and helpful.

Disclaimer: Nothing funny about infidelity, it’s awful what these two did.

However, I enjoy the karma bus coming for these two. Some of the comments on social media are very funny and well deserved.

I also think it will make reconciliation harder if she chooses that route.

Perhaps it will be harder in one way because she will feel judged if she stays, but at the same time, the exposure might make reconciliation possible. The WH in this situation can't dodge accountability. More importantly, it's practically impossible for him and OW to take it underground because there's no dark corners for them to hide. That affair is almost certainly over now.

And if she does divorce most states don’t care about cheating.

Some states--including Massachusetts, where this all went down--have an at-fault option for adultery as grounds for divorce. While adultery might not affect custody or division of assets, she could be entitled to compensation for marital funds that were squandered to support his affair; for example, money he spent on lavish dinner dates or expensive concert tickets. The BW certainly wouldn't have a hard time proving any of that in court now.

[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 5:05 PM, Friday, July 18th]

BTB, while I agree I still think it will ultimately complicate her situation. I remember my D Day and I’d have hated this. I did fantasize about him losing it all and public shaming, but I realized if I were to divorce I didn’t want him jobless. Couple that with a bad reputation making finding a new job more difficult it would have considerably lowered my future alimony. If I had divorced or reconciled and he was a pariah in his job field it would have ultimately hurt me. The finite amount this woman may recover from his affair expenditures are likely much lower than what she stands to gain in alimony If he continues to be a high earner. I protected my cheating husband from this, not for him, but for the financial stability of me and my kids.

I’ve seen a picture of the BW and he definitely affaired down. Also I’m annoyed with the giggly affair cheerleader next to her. My WW had a cheerleader and after reading their messages that is exactly how I picture her cheering and laughing.

Tanner, I keep thinking about his kids . Can you imagine what going back to school will be like? Can you imagine the confusion and turmoil they feel? They are hurt and angry at their dad while still loving him. They will hear the comments made about their dad and feel like defending the man they love while also hating him in the moment. This public outing is not what’s best for the kids. It’s so sad. While giving this cheater his just rewards the victims are being hurt too and that’s not good.

I think about the kids too. You know who didn't - The Cold Play Cheaters. They assumed the risk and sacrificed their kids at the alter of a cheap thrill.

They can say they never thought they'd get caught. They can say a lot of things. They're probably convincing themselves right now it all Cold Play's fault (even publicly blamed them). But at the end of the day, they made a choice and sacrificed the innocents for their own cheap thrill. And they both tucked and run when the light shone on them. The Mirror of Truth is a bitch.

I hope the BS gets herself a good IC and one for the kids too. They will all need one.

I hope the world is watching and noting the collateral damage that is the loved ones as lives crumble.
The aftermath is horrific and ugly. Crawling out of the proverbial rubble of lives blown up is Hell.

I hope all cheaters of the world watch this and rethink their decisions. I hope this is a CTJ moment for many. I hope globally affair partner's are dropped like yesterday's garbage and people pull their heads out of their asses.

For their loved ones, I'm sorry this is happening on a global scale.
For the Cold Play Cheater's themselves, I can't say I'm sorry at all.