sneaker (original poster member #49520) posted at 7:50 AM on Thursday, May 28th, 2026
Told myself I would come back in about 10 years and post. I would say my WS and I have 100% reconciled and moved on. We haven't really spoke of the affairs in about 6-8 years, every once in awhile something is brought up that reminds (usually a conversation about a location, movie or tv plots, etc.) which I guess will never go away. The 10 year time frame is about right I think after about 5 years I started to fully turn to building what felt like a new foundation and relationship with WS and then about 7-10 years post DD felt safe and the "is this going to work long term" thoughts left.
This all sound good and hopeful. However, the way I use to view my WS before DD that feeling, the naive person I was, will never return. Which is okay I am not sure it was a healthy way to view any partner as if they could do no wrong to you etc.
Me: fBH
Her: fWW (3x brief A's over 20yrs)
3 Kids
In R
You can't heal unless you know what your healing from..
Oldwounds ( member #54486) posted at 4:33 AM on Friday, May 29th, 2026
Married 36+ years, together 41+ years
Two awesome adult sons.
Dday 6/16 4-year LTA Survived.
M Restored
"It is better to conquer our grief than to deceive it." — Seneca
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:44 AM on Friday, May 29th, 2026
This is a great update. These things take more time than we want, but sometimes you get a nice happy ending. So glad you and your S were able to R. Here’s to your next ten years!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
