Rocko post #41:
Gemmy,
Have you shared your story with a close friend, relative etc..?
If you have, how are they not grabbing you by the shoulders and telling you to Wake the F*** Up!
You've never had a partner\spouse in your marriage.
"Sharing Her Special Day" is a kick to your nuts that's been happening every single day of your marriage.
The thought that He was in her mind and heart on your wedding night is the ultimate in betrayal.
Peace
I agree with you, in that if this were my friend I'd tell him to leave her ass.
The problem is that you and I are rarer than not. There is the Reconciliation-Industrial Complex, which basically tells BHs to shut up and sit down. You know, 'how long are you gonna keep holding this against her man? She said she was sorry!'
Gemmy, I am furious for you. And the pattern with your WW and her IC--we seen this movie on here before. WW and IC's work together is all about helping her FEEL better, not BE better for you. It's a terrible movie man, 0 stars do not recommend. Spoiler Alert: It's going to end with her one day saying nonsense about how she has made peace with what she has done, past is past.
I can't help but notice that your WW stopped posting here, where even though there are people I disagree with, at least she would be held accountable. I'd like to think that it is because you both decided that only one could post here but its a shame she isn't found a resource holding her accountable.
And all this crap about healing herself--what does that even mean? Nothing was done to her, she had full agency all along. YOU were the one who was kept in the dark about your own life all these years!
[This message edited by WontBeFooledAgai at 7:40 PM, Tuesday, July 14th]
