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You don't talk much about how you and your wife communicate and what your wife is saying or feeling about the situation. I understand if you don't want to speak for her or give an uncomfortable amount of personal information. It makes it harder to understand why she is acting the way that she is.

Maybe this is a situation where marriage counseling is appropriate.

I still hold that if this is a situation where your wife is openly lying to you (telling you that you are not allowed to stay at the hotel when that's not true) or avoiding or deflecting your conversations and concerns as you initially indicated, I would find that intolerable in a marriage.

Is she is openly telling you how she feels about the situation? Is it a difference of opinion on how you should behave in a marriage with the opposite sex? There could be middle ground. You sound like you don't have confidence in her abilities to act appropriately and to even know when someone is taking advantage of her. I don't really know how you put yourself in an equal partnership in marriage if you can't trust that your partner is acting on their own accord in their own interests. I'm puzzled.

Bigger, I don't recall how to cut & paste on here, but I really took your post to heart.

Days 2 & 3 done. She went out for desert last night with some lady and tonight she's having dinner possibly with one of the male 'artists' (and possibly another person) but insists it's only because the in-house dinner area is closed for a wedding reception. She was honest and frank and we talked it through. In fact, if the weather is good, she's going to walk alone and probably eat alone. It's more if the weather is bad as her car is in the valet parking garage and this guy is parked on the street. So he may be driving a small group.

Someone asked about our communication style. I'm a bit more open. She gets frustrated easily as she is more of a thinker type- so I try to be patient and let her choose her words. It works for both of us. We try and spend a lot of time together. Her parents passed away in 2024/2025 and since we have been closer and she is more at ease in life.

I don't recall how to cut & paste on here,

Refresher course:

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